I never had that perfect instinct of what my dream guy would be because I had made many mistakes prior to making the right choice. I picked the tough guy who ended up being tough with me. The only thing he gave me was two beautiful daughters. I could not take his verbal and physical abuse so I terminated my marriage.

That apparently was not enough for me to get smart because I met another handsome charismatic guy who ended up being a sociopath so I ended that relationship.

Guess what? I did get a lot smarter.

I was working to make ends meet and supporting two kids and got a great job. I met a friend at that same job who ended up being a good friend who was married. I met her husband and he was a great guy. She confided in me that she was having an affair with a married man. I was so disappointed in her and I kept this secret from her husband because I did not want to hurt him or betray her but I begged her to stop this affair to no avail. I had become friends with her husband and seeing him and knowing what I knew was painful. She did not hide it very well because he found out and her lovers’ wife found out and need I say more. Yes, there is more to say.

I no longer had a friendship with her and after 8 months I ran into her ex-husband who I thought the world of. He was still in a “why me” mode and asked if I could just meet him and sit and talk. I obliged and this friendship grew into a loving relationship. I was apprehensive because my instincts had led me into bad relationships but I had known this guy. On our third date, he took me and my two daughters to a department store and bought us all winter coats. Now I ask you, who does that? Well, he did. He had no children and he fell in love with my two kids. My kids fell in love with him.

Now this was 40 years ago. I was married for 40 years to the most wonderful caring person I had ever met. He was kind, a great provider and he adored my kids as they adored him. Everyday with him was wonderful. Not to say that we did not have disagreements but we worked it out. Last February I lost this wonderful man due to the effects of Agent Orange because he was a Vietnam vet. I have grieved so much but I have to say that there are some that will never know the love we had.

The right guy; your dream guy will buy you and your kids winter coats or if not exactly this way, he will provide you with so much love in another way. Stay away from the wolf in sheep’s clothing. Go for the guy who puts you first and always rely on your intuition and past experiences to lead you the right way.